As we go through life, I would venture to guess that the average person meets tens of thousands of people, most of those people we see on one occasion, and will never see again. A much smaller number becomes regular acquaintances, you know, people you see every so often, but don’t really “know”. An even smaller number become friends, people you see fairly regularly, and know quite a bit about. And then you have the core of what I call “good friends”, these are people who in one way or another have helped shape or direct your life (these can be family members, but I don’t think being a family member automatically puts you in this category). These are the people you can call in the middle of the night, and you know they’ll be there for you. In my opinion, these are the people who make life worth living. Acquaintances and friends come and go, but good friends are always there, even if they are thousands of miles away, or you haven’t seen each other for years, you know they’re out there, and that makes life better.
I think we often wonder what influence we have on those people who we come in contact with. Deep down I believe everyone wants to make a good impression, and be remembered for something positive. However most of the time we will never know the influence we have on people around us, even with our core of good friends, how often you really sit down and tell another person how much they mean to you. Honestly, the answer is probably, not enough.
It’s a little after midnight, Misty and I are getting ready for bed, and all of a sudden my phone beeps at me indicating I have a new email. I glanced at it, expecting it to be something silly, or something which could wait for the morning, but what I found waiting for me was the following email from my good friend, Jim Crum. With his permission I have decided to share with you, not to pat myself on the back, or toot my own horn, because frankly I think much of his praise is rather over exaggerated; but rather I share it is a testament that we often times truly really never know the influence we have on other people. After reading Jim’s email, I felt very humble, but mostly a felt appreciative, appreciative of my good friends who have blessed me by allowing me to be a part of their lives, I love you all! Maybe this email will serve as motivation for you to share with someone you care about what influence they’ve had on you and your life, I guarantee you they would love to hear it.
Below is Jim’s email in its entirety. (Please take his praises with a large grain of salt.)
I can’t really tell you why I started writing this other than the fact that I utterly felt compelled to do so. I am awakened from a sound sleep from a long week in the middle of the night, yet there is no explanation. The only thought that seems to be consuming my conscious is that I must write a story about Dave Adams.
Who is Dave Adams and why would I need to write a story about him? The later question I have no answer for, but the first one, well the first one I can honestly tell you he is a person that will leave a lasting impression upon you and will become a part of your life before you know it. Dave Adams is one of the most amazing people I know. Just a quick fact before we get started. Dave has what is called Charcot-Marie-Tooth disease. I won’t bother going into details about it, so look it up if you want, you will find a lot of good informative information about it, even though most in the US have never heard of it. I had not until I met Dave and even then, it was literally years before I knew the name or anything about it. Why would I not know what ailment of someone that I consider such a good friend and an amazing person? Because that IS NOT who Dave is. That is a something that Dave has and has it he does. He owns that bitch, he does not let it own him. Me asking Dave about it would be like asking you why your eyes are brown or blue. It is a characteristic of Dave and it makes him who he is, it does not take away from him, it enhances his Daveness. Yeah, I know it is not a real word, but if you met Dave, you would know exactly what I was talking about and be calling up Merriam-Websters and demanding it becomes one.
I told you this was completely free from and I am just typing the stuff that comes into my mind. Maybe if I do, I will be able to get some rest. So back to Dave. I met Dave after moving to Utah in 2006. In fact, I met Dave the spring of 2007 in nice little place called Moab, Utah. Moab is a place where thousands of tourists go each year. They go to ride backs, hike the trails, climb the rocks, raft the rivers. Oh, and if you ever get the pleasure, there maybe a jeep or two down there too. Actually, if you go there, you will see a LOT of jeeps and a few things that started out as Jeeps and have now been transformed into “crawlers”. Very expensive vehicles that are not really rode worthy, but can climb a vertical cliff like you were taking your grandma to the grocery store. This is a place that as a child I would dream about going to. I would sit and watch 4×4 shows and truck shows about Moab and be amazed at how they would drive these vehicles on the rocks and up the inclines.
Well I moved to Utah and I got my opportunity to go vista the Mecca of the off road community. I took my shiny new jeep signed up for the Easter Jeep Safari and was ready to take 35,000 worth of machinery on a road that, scratch that, on a trail of sandstone and dirt that I am sure now, any good insurance policy explicitly says they exclude coverage on. I tell you all this so I can tell you the rest of the story of how I met Dave. Again, Moab from the description seems and is a pretty hardcore place. So here I am, in my shiny new jeep ready to go on a treacherous trail, which a few months later, I would later laugh about because it really wasn’t anything when comparing it to things I would do later. But regardless, I am here, I am ready and a little nervous and excited at the same time. So we have a driver meeting and everyone in the trail group is requested over the CB to come up to the green jeep to meet the trail leader. So here is Dave, sitting in his jeep, my first thought is that he looks like a younger Hugh Laruie. Look it up. For those that know Dave…. you are going yeaaahhhh I see it. Any way back to the story.
I along with 20 other eager newbies, I say newbies, because this really was a newbie trail. It is fun but still a newbie. I think I did it once a year just because it was pretty and we got to see petroglyphs at the end. Right about now, most of you in the know are going…. hey…… I know what trail he is talking about. Anyway we meet Dave and he is telling us about the trail and what it will be like and what is going on.. It is early, Dave is wearing a red jacket that I would later learn is the Red Rock Club Jacket and he was the land use officer too. Anyway we are on the trail and Dave takes this behemoth of a green jeep roaring up some obstacles. This thing was well loved… By Dave and the rocks of Moab. But it was awesome. I wanted mine to be like his, but not too soon.. Like I said I had only had it for about 6 months. Anyway, I was behind Dave and followed him up the line he took and made it. I felt a since of accomplishment and was all proud when he hollered at me and asked me to come help him. I thought what can I do to help this guy? I am giddy over going up a 3 foot ledge. He wanted help getting out to spot the others. That is when I learned that this man who was leading us around the backcountry of Moab couldn’t get out of his jeep due to some physical ailment. I was extremely impressed AGAIN. Here is this dude, with a bad ass jeep, in the most bad ass part of the country I know and making his own and he was by all definitions of the word Hand…… I can’t say it and I won’t … because DAVE is NOT that word… Dave is a bad ass himself… I was like sure. So we walked together to the spot that I am sure he sat at dozens of times. It had to resemble the scene of were Yoda was sitting in the swamp telling Luke what to do…. Anyway, that is my first meeting of Dave. We continue the trail and get out a few more times, stop for lunch, and then finally end the trail. At the end I talk to Dave because I am after all like a little kid in the candy store. I am in Moab for pete’s sake. So fast forward a little bit to the next day and I am on a trail again with Dave. This time I am on Hell’s Revenge. Now I thought the previous trail was hard….. Within the first 100 yards of this trail you are on a knife’s edge rim driving on sandstone that is barely wide enough to keep your vehicle up. Dangerously skirting the edge of what would be certain demise if you were to go off either edge. Well that is what it felt like. But now, I think we have actually passed other jeeps on this “knife edge”.
Anyway we get on the trail and it is amazing. The beauty of the rocks and I am just amazed and in aw that I finally made it here…. So soon we are at a “Hot Tub”. Basically it is a depression where the water has eroded the rock…. Jeeps have been driving in and out of them for a very long time you could tell by the rubber depots on the sandstone. So we stop and watch a few jeeps go in and out. Then our leader, Dave starts to go down into the hot tub. I was like what? This guy is insane… I like him…. So he starts and he tries it and doesn’t make it the first time. While he is backing up and getting ready for his second attempt I hear people talking about how they saw him do this before and other stuff he has done. So people know this guy, which doesn’t surprise me now. He has the personality to take over a room and people notice him. So he tries to go up again and just when you think he is going to make it, he flops…. I mean HARD. Right from the top of this bowl he plummets to the bottom. It has to be 10 feet right on his top. So right away, this dude slides down in, and I am thinking ok, he is getting him. But this ass hat is just video taping him, not helping. So I slide down in there because I am like really concerned because I know this guy has some issues… Don’t others? Why aren’t they helping! And I usually act way before I think things out and sliding down a 10 foot sandstone embankment soaked in oil, gas, and rubber with standing water and jeep parts in the bottom of it is something you should probably think about doing before you do it. Well I realize that now, but anywhere I was there. Dave is hanging upside down by his waist seat belt and I ask him if he is ok. He says yea, then I say Well I am Jim and I will be birthing you from your jeep today or something like that. At least that is what we say I say now, cause its funny. So I get him out of his jeep and slide him across my lap because like I said, there is water and crap in the bottom. We get the jeep right side up and continue on.
I don’t know exactly when I started to know Dave to the point where I would call him my friend. Like I said at the beginning he sort of becomes part of your life without you realizing it. I would go down to Moab and see him the Moab Brewery or on the trail, we would talk and started doing trails. Then I started meeting people he knew. The next thing I knew I was sleeping on the guys couch when I would go do to Moab. But I will admit, delivering a guy from his Jeep starts you down the friendship path pretty quick. So now I am starting to meet a lot of people through Dave and what is funny is I know more people in Moab and because of Moab than I do in the town I live in now. I have not had a jeep for 5 years, but we all keep in touch still and I consider Dave and everyone I met because of Dave my very good friends. I mean like I will go pick you up at the airport type of friends. Not these… I will say Hi to you every other year friends. We may not see each other regularly, well I don’t see them, regularly, the rest still have their jeeps and go play. Not that I am bitter or care that they remind me about it often. (Jeremy, Jonny) But we all still talk and communicate to each other. We have some good memories and stories; Set it on fire, the Penguins are complaining, just to name a few.
Anyway, I know this seem to get off the topic of who Dave Adams is, but it didn’t really. What you just read IS Dave Adams. He is the Coach, the Chief of the APC (Adams Pit Crew). You see he is the center of a very tight universe that feeds off of kindness and friendship and love. Dave has not had the easiest life, but he is NEVER a victim. He is the guy yelling at you from his chair telling you that you didn’t tighten the bolt on the transfer case enough when he can’t even see the thing. He is the guy telling you that you need to go faster and hurry up and fix his jeep so that he can go out in the morning. But he is also the guy that would do anything in the word for anyone. He and his wonderful wife Misty open their lives and home up to anyone that needs a place to stay. Whether for a night, a week or a year, I know you are welcome there. And they accept you quickly into their lives and you accept them into yours. I have stopped and talked to people that I met though Dave and Misty on my way to other locations. Why? Because we share a common trait that makes us all better people. That trait is having Dave in our lives. I know that I may catch some grief over this from people who may read it and you can tease me all you want. But you look me in the eye and tell me you don’t feel the same way. So I started this out by asking the question, “Who is Dave Adams?” Well you know, I realize that now, with a few tears in my eyes.. (why ???? I don’t know…) that who is not the right question. The better question is “What is Dave Adams?”
He is a good that you don’t usually find, he attracts good, and he makes you feel good. We are all better for knowing him. What do I mean he attracts good? Well his wife Misty is one example. She is the sweetest person you will ever meet. Kind and generous and willing to do whatever she can to help you. And Dave and Misty have a circle of friends and family that surround them. They are the core because I truly believe that people at attracted to that kind of pure goodness / Daveness and they want to be part of it. We are all better people for it and I am glad to say that Dave Adams is my friend. I admire him.
I realize this was a long road that seemed to take a few detours, but I have pretty much been typing my thoughts. So we started with a question and finished with an answer. The other question we didn’t answer is why I am writing this? I don’t know, but I feel better by writing it. Maybe Dave and Misty needed to hear these things. Maybe someone who may see this needed it. I don’t know. I don’t pretend to know all the answers when it comes to stuff like this, but I do know that this has been sort of an emotional roller coaster for me for some reason. But I wrote it and I am going to send it to you Dave and Misty. I love you guys and I hope everything is well with you. God Bless.
Here is the video of me rolling in Mickey’s Hot Tub. Watch closely, towards the end and you can even see Jim sliding in to come rescue me. Now that’s a good friend!